以争止争

你说的是对的事，就不怕被人歪曲。对的事，人并不能也无法把它说成错。如果你无法捍卫它，代表你不能完全明白它。 你不能完全明白它，你又如何确定它是对的呢？拿你不能明白又不能确定对错的东西去告诉人， 不是等于害人吗？

多数人因为害怕别人异样的眼光， 而选择沉默和服从多数人的意见。就当我是个异类。 别跟我说多数人讲对的事就是对的，别跟我来那一套，真相与真理不是选总统， 更不是黑社会劈友讲人数，真理经得起考验，更经得起攻击。如果你不能捍卫你的说法，代表你不明白你的真理，你都不明白你的真理，何必拿出来献丑？

从前的人，全部人都认为大地是平的，他们再怎么厉害，怎么聪明，你再怎么跟他说大地是圆地，我们都是站在一颗叫做地球的行星上，你一定被人当作疯子。现在呢？你还认为全部人认为是对的， 一定是对吗？

不是说他人说的话都是错的， 只是对错应该要由自己去判断。 而不是顺从他人的判断。质疑他人的意见先而不是全部照单全收。 因为真正对的事，绝对经得起质疑。而错的事，学来何用？学习他人，而不是拷贝他人。聆听他人的意见，而不是无条件照单全收，觉得对就记在收在心里，印在脑里。 觉得错就应该反问甚至于反驳。有疑惑就要发问。 这样做人才不会越来越疑惑，越来越无知。 更不会被人带去荷兰。

对于那些没有思考而服从，相信的人和以前的奴隶有何分别？不同的只是一个是身体与身份上的奴隶， 一个是思想与精神上的奴隶。 个人认为以前奴隶即使他身手被捆，只要他思想上自由，他还是一个自由的人，只是肉体被人奴隶。 然而精神上的奴隶，才不幸是真正的奴隶。

很多人， 嘴巴上说你对，你对。我错，你全部对，我全部错，其他人全部错。其实心里确不愿意承认。 如果真的那样认为，就不会拖他人下水。这些人就如鸵鸟般，只会把头埋在地下，自以为是罢了。嘴巴上说一套，心里边想另一套。关闭自己的内心，把自己的意见埋住，把自己的视听盖住。 久而久之，就不懂思想，不懂发表自己的疑问。 久而久之，就会把自己变成自己精神上的奴隶。

真理只会越辩越白。有些人为了少一点争执，而选择沉默，甚至于退一步自己吃亏。以为这样对大家都好。 的确有时是最明智的选择，但一味退让， 大部分时候却是让事情更糟。往往会使双方的矛盾爆发时一发不可收拾。 因为人的容忍是限度地。你认为你在退让，他认为你无视他。 久而久之双方都会有意见。 堵不如疏，偶尔一些争执反而才是长久之道。

人与人之间的交往最重要是互相了解， 然而我们并没有特异功能，不能不沟通就明白双方在想些什么。 不要期待你不开口人们就知道你在想些什么。 这是不可能地。 更不要期待人们会无端端知道你的想法。 这是不现实地。然而一旦开口沟通， 你一定发现争执是很难避免地，因为世上没有一模一样思想的人， 意见的摩擦在所难免。但别害怕争执，只要记得别人身攻击，适当的控制，一些争执反而对人际关系有益。

最后送上一句名言 “以战止战，虽战可也， 以争止争，虽争可也。”

意思是透过发动战争来制止战争，虽然也是发动战争，但好过永无止境的战争来得好。 透过争执制止矛盾， 虽然也是争执，但好过矛盾一发不可收拾。

说说听听

说和听是一门学问, 人类跟这个社会沟通的一门学问.

当我们想知道某件事. 表达某些东西. 我们会通过"发"问, 向这个世界传达信息...

而通过听 ..来向这个世界"吸"收信息...

"发"的多, 未必代表"收"的多..

然而当我们无法做到"发"一 "收"百的程度..甚至于“发“一”收“十　

我们只能努力通过"发“百,"受”十 ，甚至”发“千＂收“十的方式。。。　

所以我的朋友， 原谅我的话多， 那代表了我的求知欲多。。。

原谅我的无能，　只能通过“发”百， 甚至发“千”来得到“收” 十 ， 甚至于“收” 一的方式来换取我那卑微的知识。

然而我愿意用这种笨方法， 好过那些不什么都不“发”不“收”得人。。。

所以至我亲爱的朋友， 当你被我”发“到什么都不“发”时。。 你应该多"收“点。。。

以便你下次能”发“多一些。。。　

而当我不”发“时。。。原谅我，　应为我从不跟我确认是白痴的人说话。。。　














话多, 是因为对这个世界的求知欲多. 话少, 未必是求知欲少..

话少未必的

阴谋贵密, 阳谋贵周

阴谋贵密, 阳谋贵周.奇正相辅, 阴阳相洽. 阴生阳,阳生阴, 如循环之无端,岂能穷之哉.阴,如水中月,可望而不可及. 阳,如日中天. 可蔽而不可避.

I"M UNDEFEATABLE ~~~

my confident is easy to break.......but dont worry it's was far more easy to rebuild back .~~~ I'm Undefeatable ~~~~oh leh leh ~~oh lah lah ~~

子非鱼， 安知鱼之乐 呼？！

10 principle for myself ..

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致自己人生的十个信条

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10 principle for myself ..

1) Believe in yourself, if you don't. no body else would.

--如果连你都不相信你自己，还有谁会相信你？--

2) This second would be next second's last second.

--不论这一刻如何的高兴，伤心，悲哀，苦闷，这一刻都会成为过去--

3) Dream On! When you dead with no dream, your life is nothing.

--有梦的人傻，追梦的人天真，没梦的人可悲--

4) Always remind yourself what you are, what you want, what you can do.

--时常提醒你自己，你是谁，你想要什么，你能做什么--

5) Remember what you had, is not what you permanent own, you have to gave it back one day .

--永远要记得你所有的一切， 只是暂时由你保管， 总有一天你需要还出来--

6) Work hard. Play hard. Don't save your energy into coffin.

--尽情地做， 尽情地玩，别自私您的精力--

7) Deeply Believe in something. Faith is the strongest power in this world.

--要有信仰， 信仰绝对具有超出你想象的力量--

8) Be brave, don't fear. What to fear if you can settle it, and why fear if you cant?

--别害怕，遇到坏的情况，如果你能应付干吗害怕？如果你不能应付， 害怕又有用吗？--

9) Listen to others opinion. but then, forget what they said. You need to judge its yourself.

--聆听他人的意见，然后忘记他们所说的一切。你需要靠自己去判断--

10) Remember to confidence yourself, commitment yourself and cheer yourself everyday.

-- 每天要记得相信自己， 坚定自我， 活出快乐^^ --

In Construction

= = wrong changing....in construction ..would be back soon ....

看的见和看不见的得与失。。

世上有一种“得”是肉眼所看不见的，

世上有一种“失” 也是肉眼所看不见，

一得必有一失，一失必有一得。

往往你认为你得到了很多，实际上你失去了根多。

往往你认为你失去了很多，事实上你得了根多。

因为这种“得”是无价的福，因为其无法被衡量，所以无价。

而这种“失”是无穷的祸害，因为其无法知，所以往往您陷入其中，还不察觉。

往往我们迷失在失去的痛苦之中，却察觉不到我们所得到的，我们所拥有的。

往往我们沉醉在得到的喜悦当中，却察觉不到我们所拥有的，究竟用了多少宝贵的东西换来。

Sweat!!!

went to 99 market opposite my house just now for buying my dinner. when i was queue up in front the counter. a kid tell his mother :

" Ma ma! mama! i want buy like uncle there, that kind de snack ! ",

"that is not uncle lah, that is kou kou" his mother replied.

"but that uncle "

" Shu~~!! that is not uncle, is kou kou"

did not realize what happen at first. but hey, did that boy just call me uncle? what ? Uncle?

Look i look like uncle ? or he just call somebody else? turn back have a look.. omg! Only left one female worker behind me ...= =

Sweat betul!!!....**** ...pay the money immediately and rush out. when pass through, i seem like listen the kid sayings uncle again.

Sweat!! This kid! = = Sure failure in his PMR AND SPM when he grow up. XD...

I Don't Understand..

I don't understand...

invasion of insomnolence...come again!!!

another sleepless night, tire but cant get in sleep. i do not really know what is the reason of in somnolence

would like to twitter a few thing about me in this sleepless night.

my back was aching. might be because siting in front of computer with a wrong posture in long time.

being infected by jason recently, cant believe that i would go listen Gee Gee Gee.

Planing to swimming every sunday now. at evening around 4-6 pm . whoever have interest can contact me.

Planning to finish the book "The age of fallibility" faster, this book already take me months to read and haven't finish it even now.

Planing to maintain a decent lifestyle.

last , thank for the time reading my twitter post..^^

Damn...

MSN Messenger Cannot open again...= =

21st b'day collection+ Old days Picture..

sorry for the late coming post ..since is too less to say then to see.. so i decide taking a collection picture of 21st b'day+ old times picture .. .(suit for my lazy personality style, right? ) ...+(some i grab from friend's blog^.^)

Let's the picture tell the story ..

here come the picture

last, i want say some thing to your all my dear friend.

although, i am not good with this.

To :

Ah Kai : Hope you can become a famous hairdresser and have your own saloon one day ..gambateh...

Benn Kitt : Was regret to talk bird too many with u ..now got to pay back by listen your more geng bird language back @.@....and . Keep par pia...you got talent de.. i believe in you ...People would know it someday.

Boon kiat : I have to admit ..your performance in dota are a bit good than me ...but just a bit nia ..okay ?

Chee Hou : You look cute and yeng with botak hair style leh ^.^ ..especially with a smile on it..it make the picture become classic one .

Benjamin aka Chooi Kah Fong : Dream on ..ben. Dream on ..and ...next time when you drunk dont climb tree...i am afraid of the tree might broke and once you up you scare to climb down ..haha..

Tuck Long : i think i gonna miss you if you go oversea....if that time, you din bring a dozen of ang mo poh back you dont come back ar ...dont drop our face that time okay ?

Eugene : a best friend ..which is good ..caring..nicely ..handsome ( lose me a bit only ^.^ ) ..cute?XD.....Caring and understanding all the time.....dont know how to describe your good more ...Have a similar background as me...always back me up..help me a lots.....thank for the fetch ..thank for the bed ( to others, dont miss understanding yeah !)thank for the advises..(even i din take them all == , but i promise i would try ..PS : only try ....^^) thank for everything ... thank for all those time with me....if got a bulletin choose for the best man(etc handsome..good,kind ..blar blar total mark ) ...you are the world no 2 good man ...Good choice..crystal ..good choice....( PS : why no 2 not no 1? cause i am the no 1 mah ^.^ cheer ~~!!)

Crystal : Dont steal laughing while saw me praise your boyfriend yeah !!and when swimming ? i want go also ...i want separate mine 6 in 1 pack back to six pack ..^.^

JG : i would try to improve my english and speak proper next time ...if can .^^..

WS : wo de chu lei poh ...mu ho yi dong sam....is what you teach ...manatahu , you become the first "dong sam " de people ..sweat = =..

Jason : endure to the fullmoon... you would have a bad decision at fullmoon and after fullmoon....

Chen Han :lou yeah ~~!!.. nei dui chooi~~!!! stop saying its~~!!! its make me scare every time i heard it ... and giving me an endless nightmare ...= =

WC : Kia ...par Ki ~~!! just kidding...a guy i met most motivated and passion and pa pia for his job until now ... certainly is a good man which willing to giving his everything and provided happiness to his other parts..

Angel : you got good insight...He is the man ..you are the girl ... and ..Jom Green box? ...^^

Sei Chai aka Jeffrey: Feeling blue when heard the sad event....just want to let you know ...we are always with u..bro .. ...not matter when .no matter what .....

Li peng : Dont worry lah ..sure got your de....how can i miss you? you make me feel i am more leng zhai when hanging out with u ...make me feel i am more pro when playing dota with u ..blar blar blar...li peng ..no words can describe how much i shall thank u for that ...thanks alot ..li peng ..thanks a lot ....^^

~~Wish you all all the best in 2009 ^^ ~~